Imagine that a female politician puts her foot in her mouth – is said to have made a ludicrous statement, that is – and in response a national newspaper columnist write a letter to her husband.
Picture the outrage.
Now why is it alright for a columnist to ask a wife what her husband was thinking?
I’m not sure what bothers me most, the assumption that two people who are married must have one opinion, or the assumption that anyone who thinks differently from you must be wrong and stupid.
The language in the letter seems to mean to be insulting, referring to the human rights activist as a bombshell and referring to her husband as her ‘baby daddy’ and informing Nazanin Afshin-Jam MacKay that her days are now apparently spent as a “glorified lactation device” and baking cookies who is incapable of asking her husband to help around the house. And also that her husband – who became a federal cabinet minister after being a Crown attorney and is presumable not a complete idiot – is a bumbling idiot.
Apparently it is “woman’s work” to mould their husbands into better human beings. I haven’t met a lot of smart, beautiful women with purpose who have married as beneath themselves in the way Leah McLaren seems to imply here.
Judging by her reply Nazanin Afshin-Jam MacKay has not hung up her saddle in terms of speaking her mind.
Or “lashing out” as this reporter called it, which irked me. Presumably if a man had written similarly he would not be described in those same terms.
The fact is, as Afshin-Jam MacKay mentions, that no one knows exactly what MacKay said at the Ontario Bar Association about the lack of women judges in federal courts. I mean presumably a group of lawyers wouldn’t misquote someone like this, Afshin-Jam MacKay refers to it as slander.
Afshin-Jam MacKay offers a compelling argument for her husband, who she says was raised by a single mother who was also a feminist. And certainly a man who didn’t believe in women at least a little bit would never have married such a strong, outspoken one.
Also read: A Thank you letter to Leah McLaren